So instead of playing mind-games with her, in hopes that you'll appear like The Man: tell her what you want, and close with a plan: Then do it. ") and don’t say you’re going to do it unless you mean it, whether it’s calling or texting on the appointed day, or showing up on time.
You don't need to worry about whether she likedto see her again.
In a perfect world, you like someone, you contact them, and they either agree to go out with you, or they don't. So it’s understandable that you will strive to look strong and invulnerable.
If you're female, you've been beaten over the head since you were a wee lass with the age-old advice that you should let a guy call you and make the first move. If you're male, ever since your hormones starting pinging, you've been trying to figure out how you're supposed to tell if a girl actually likes you enough to risk being rejected by making the first move..then how to proceed after she actually goes out with you. The thing is, you can use this strength and vulnerability to your advantage.
If you're busy being yourself, and living your life, there really isn't a reason to need to "play" anything.
Either way, when you over-compensate by waiting too long, you can send very confusing signals to your potential dates. Play the field all you want, but be honest about your dating life.
We women spend too much time analyzing, make excuses about, or rationalizing men's dating behavior. At 4 pm, you get a text from him, telling you that he had a nice time too, and he hopes you have a great weekend.
It's enough to make you want to reach inside your head and smother your brain with your pillow to put it out of its misery. You show up at the appointed time and place for your first meet up, your pre-date, so to speak. You want to poke his eyes out with your fingernails.
You drift off to sleep that night feeling confident that he'll call you for a second date. They range from the ridiculous to sensible and from issues he had with something about you, to issues he is going through himself. Keep looking, and remind yourself that every date you go on is just practice for the day you and the love of your life lock eyes.
By afternoon your phone's message icon is completely smudged from constantly checking for texts. Bottom line: Don't rip yourself to shreds, give away your power and assume responsibility.